I have been married for the past 13 months. It is an arranged mariage and I have known my husband for only the past 15 months. Ever since our mariage we have lived more apart than together owing to our jobs and some medical problems. I am having difficulties adjusting to my husband and wonder if I should just give it up. I dont "LOVE" him and am sure he doesn't either.
Recently I was sick and confined to the bed because of which I had to stay at my parents. My husband was least concerned about me and spent the weekends partying or hanging out with friends when that was the only time he could have paid me a visit and taken care of me giving my parents a much needed break. Is not being married a promise that the other person is there for you in sickness? I am deeply hurt by his behaviour and just do not see anything good in him. The way I see him, he is egoistic, tempermental, selfish, and a liar who cares about no one except himself. What hurts me most is he does not even talk to me but only screams. I have in the past (before and after marriage) caught him lying to me on several matters.
Do such people even have a chance of changing or should I just run away from him at the earliest? I am confused and do not know if this marriage is even worth the effort of trying to save it.
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